This chapter discusses what bullying is and what it is not, the difference between the words ‘victim’ and ‘target,’ and the problems and conditions that precipitate bullying and violence.
“Bullying doesn’t always look like bullying.” (p. 54)
Q: Have you seen bullying situations in your life that have been read wrong? Have you known nice-enough kids or adults who have gotten caught up in bullying dynamics?
Most bullies think they are in the right to act as they do. (p. 55)
Q: Considering the bullying continuum, so many incidents of violence have escalated from accidents, misunderstandings or wrong ideas. When have you seen that happen?
Many adults grew up with myths about behavior that did not help prepare them for today’s bullying realities. (p. 62)
Q: How many of these do you remember from being a child? Do you ever repeat them to your own kids? What are better messages we could give?
Fair fights, sibling rivalry, and initiation rituals are not always bullying, but they are still conflict. (p. 63-66)
Q: Conflict of every kind can be resolved. How is bullying different?
Mainstream parenting practices contribute to bullying dynamics: Negativity, permissiveness, and power assertive methods. (p. 76)
Q: Are these habits common in your family or community? If not, what do parents do instead to get desired behavior from their kids?
This question is always a good one:
Q: What sentence, paragraph, or idea popped out at you, or stuck with you after reading?
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