How Parents Can Interrupt and Prevent Bullying
This chapter gets to the nuts and bolts of bullying events, and helps parents help their kids when they are bullying or being bullied.
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“Parents, teachers, and other school professionals sometimes feel annoyed by a child’s complaints about being picked on.” (p. 80)
Q. In the section, “Interrupting Bullying Behavior and Providing Support” on pages 80-87, what advice surprised you? Which of these suggestions help to create empathy?
“Bystanders make a decision to either actively or passively support the bully. An ‘upstander,’ on the other hand, recognizes that he or she has a choice and decides, ‘I can and will do something to help make things better.'” (p. 87-88)
Q. What can parents do to give their children the strength and courage to be upstanders?
“Positivity is essential to health and happiness….Positive feelings can undo the damage of negativity….Positivity increases optimism and feelings of resourcefulness and resilience, and can counter pain and trauma…” (p. 92)
“The effect of positive emotion is cumulative and durable.” (p. 93)
“Positive emotions appear to ‘undo’ or dismantle the body’s fight-or-flight reaction.” (p. 93)
Q: What are some areas of your life where you can apply the 3:1 ratio and the concept of upward and outward spirals to create strength and resilience? What are some ways you can halt a downward slide, self-generate positive emotion, and un-do negativity in these situations?
“Children with good emotional health and pro-social skills are less likely to be bullied or to attract bullies; they are more likely to have good relationships and use their energies for constructive things such as reaching out to their communities, expressing their creativity and intelligence, and positively influencing the world around them.” (p. 80)
Q: On pages 95-96, twelve characteristics of mentally healthy people are listed, and on pages 97-100, six building blocks of healthy development are detailed. How are your children doing in each of these areas? Do you recognize any “holes” in yourself?
And if you still have time, ask…
Q: What sentence, paragraph, or idea popped out at you, or stuck with you after reading?
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