Chapter 15

Restructuring Family Power

1. Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté, Hold Onto Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, rev. ed. (New York: Ballantine Books, 2006).

2. Linda Harrison, “Counterwill: Why Did I Never See It This Way Before?,” Linda’s Daily Living Skills (blog), March 1, 2012,

3. Cameron French, “Spanking Kids Can Cause Long-Term Harm—Canada Study,” Reuters U.S. Edition, February 7, 2012,

4. Bonnie Rochman, “Hitting Your Kids Increases Their Risk of Mental Illness,”, July 2, 2012,

5. Jane Nelsen, quoted in “Parenting Without Punishment Campaign,”

6. Constantinos M. Kokkinos and Georgia Panayioto, “Parental Discipline Practices and Locus of Control: Relationship to Bullying and Victimization Experiences of Elementary School Students,” Social Psychology of Education 10, no. 3 (September 2007): 281–301.

7. Kim John Payne, “Soul of Discipline: In the First Nine Years,” Simplicity Parenting,

8. Steve Andreas, Transforming Your Self: Becoming Who You Want to Be (Moab, UT: Real People Press, 2002).

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